Tuesday, September 10, 2013

The 16th Sunday after Pentecost - How could I "hate" my family? What did Jesus mean?

[You must read to the end to see how the questions in the title are answered.]

"Choose life," Moses urged the people of Israel in his farewell address to them. He understood his work as their leader and a prophet was ending.  He knew that God had said he would see, but not enter the promised land.  The people were about to enter the fertile land across the Jordan and they would be tempted to worship the Canaanite fertility gods.  "Choosing life" meant holding fast to the worship of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, the one God, who had led them from Egypt and slavery through the desert for this moment.

Thousands of years have elapsed since this event took place.  Then there were many years between the event and its written form, recorded by the Deuteronomist historian--most likely when the Hebrew people were facing the issue of how to maintain their faith in God--perhaps even whether to maintain their faith--while captives in Babylon.  What did choosing life mean to them than? The beginning of Psalm 137 addresses their dilemma: "By the rivers of Babylon--there we sat down and there we wept when we remembered Zion./ On the willows there we hung up our harps./ For there our captors asked us for songs, and our tormentors asked for mirth, saying, 'Sing us one of the songs of Zion!'/ How could we sing the Lord's song in a foreign land?"  "Choosing life" meant being faithful and worshipping God even when there was no temple, even when you had been taken from the land that represented God's covenant with your people.

Do we have the sort of choice Moses presented to the people or the psalmist portrayed?  If we think in terms of a truth that transcends historical circumstances, perhaps we do.  Moses spoke from a position of perceived power.  He believed that Joshua who was to succeed him would win the battle for the land God had promised, because God would be with him.  The psalmist spoke from a position of weakness, a captive in a foreign land.  But for both "choosing life" meant being faithful to God and God's leading--no matter what the circumstances may be.

How one "chooses life" in a particular historical--or even personal--circumstance may not always be clear or easy to discern.  Onesimus seems to have violated the law, because he appears to have fled from Philemon.  Paul was never able to rise above his historical circumstances and condemn slavery as evil, but he appears in his letter to Philemon to offer the choice of life more abundant to both Onesimus and Philemon.  To "choose life" Philemon and Onesimus must reconcile, and Philemon must free Onesimus.  It is probable that neither of them would have seen this path for "choosing life" without Paul's intervention.  For Onesimus there was danger in returning and being forced to work as a slave again. For Philemon there might be ridicule from his peers for not demanding that Onesimus be punished.  Paul not only employs clever rhetoric, but he also shows respect for both men.  In doing this he is helping them "choose life.”

While the examples from Moses' teaching and Paul's epistle are positive ones, in the gospel lesson from Luke Jesus insists that becoming his disciple—that is, choosing the life Jesus is living and the life he is teaching about—becoming his disciple will have dire consequences, and one must "estimate the cost" of being a disciple.  No cost can be higher than giving up all one possesses, including good relationships with one's family.  Even giving up one's own life could be required.  Does Jesus really mean what he says?

St. Francis of Assisi provides the most famous example of taking this text literally.  He took off his fine clothes and walked away from his place in society and his father' business to live among the poor and serve them.  He "chose life" in a way most of us could not imagine doing.

For most of us the challenge to "choose life" does not involve walking away from the safety of our homes and families.  We "choose life" when we recognize the blessings God has given us in the midst of all the difficulties we may face.  We "choose life" when we use those blessings to give glory to God and to aid those in need.  As for those who don't have the safety of a roof over their heads, enough to eat, or a loving family, Jesus calls us not to condemn, but to aid them through our generosity.  By wisely--and sometimes even extravagantly--sharing what we have, we choose life, both for ourselves and for the people we assist.

There no social or political issue I can think of where we should not ask this question of ourselves: How can I choose life in this situation?  And, then, what will be life-giving for the others involved? And, finally, what decisions should flow from my answers to the first two questions?  I sometimes wonder why we as a society have such trouble speaking respectfully to each other when we address the difficult questions that we face in dealing with social or political issues.  What will be the real cost in our lives, in our church, in our community, and in our world—the cost which Jesus says we must estimate (or "count" in an older translation)—when we fail to "choose life?"